If you are a highly empathetic person, you are willing to listen to others, understand and support them. But often you cannot protect yourself from other people’s negative emotions and energy. Therefore, compassion, no matter how good it sounds, it may show the other face.
It’s Important to Keep Your Energy
Most people want to be in the company of empathetic person because it makes them feel recognized and accepted. But being empathetic may be a source of great difficulties. Other people’s trouble can totally block us and often we are not in a position to react and fix the situation that we were upset about. That’s why is important to set boundaries between yourself and others, and realize when a healthy understanding and acceptance of other people’s feelings becomes our problem.
If you identify yourself as a highly empathetic person, it is good to take some action so you won’t be upset about things that have nothing to do with you. Keep the energy for yourself and people you love, and don’t let this information, energy and emotions to enter into your system and draw your strength. Try to do that, through these 8 steps:
1. Explain it to Yourself
When your good mood suddenly changes, when emotions like fear, pain, sadness and anger raise, ask yourself – whom did you interact last; what information have you received from the environment; did you attend any unpleasant events. If yes, try to explain to yourself that the emotions you have are not yours, but you absorbed them from the outside. If you are in a position to change someone’s situation, help, comfort or consult them, do that, but if you are not in that position, tell yourself that there is nothing you can do about it and concentrate on yourself. Free yourself from the negative emotions, because you cannot help anyone, neither yourself if you are feeling bad. If you continue to go through all the feelings of others, you are exhausting your strength, rather than investing it in something constructive.
2. Look Deeper Inside
Ask yourself, what’s that inside you that makes you feel bad, just because someone else is feeling bad. Have you ever experienced something similar? Are there any feelings for someone that you suppress? Think about your problems and start dealing with them. Look deeper into yourself and start healing your old wounds. Accept all your suppressed feelings, embrace them with tenderness, let them be the way they are, express them and then release them. An important part of this process is forgiveness of self and others i.e. forgiveness to all who have caused those negative emotions.
3. Take Time to Be Alone
When you are alone with yourself you are in a position to reexamine, cry or rid of the negative emotions on any other way.
4. Imagine a Shield Around You
When you are around a toxic person, or you find yourself in an environment full of bad energy, visualize a white, transparent shield around you, that doesn’t transmit negative energy and doesn’t let other people’s negative emotions to reach you.
5. Use the Power of Water
After a contact with a highly negative person, it will be good for you to wash down all the negative energy from yourself. If you are not able to take a shower, then at least wash your face and hands. Visualize how the accumulated negative energy is falling off of you.
6. Express your Emotions
Whatever you fell, express it. No one ever gained anything good by suppressing their emotions, on the contrary, that’s a highway to various diseases. Allow yourself to express concern, fear, anger, disagreement or anything else that you feel.
7. Ground Yourself
Visualize that you are connected with the ground by a tube, through which you send all the negative energy that you have absorbed, and then you are getting positive energy from the earth. This exercise increases the flow of healthy energy within us.
8. Spend Some Time Outdoors
There is nothing more healing than the nature. Try to often be in contact with the water, earth, fresh air… Let the wind take away the negative energy that is accumulated in you.